Tired but pleased
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bethlakshmiLet's see...
Yeah... it'd be neat if I mention that BEFORE I go - but well, wasn't 100% sure of going - as I couldn't go play if homework wasn't done.![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
new_man was the impetus - he was being the tour guide for a British friend, and her sister - both of whom are very cool. We also scooped up my roomate, who was having a really shitty night, and needed the feeling of a pack with her.
A generally nice night - dance floor not packed (yay! space for me!), and although the DJ in the back was pretty mopey, he played quite a few songs I like. The front room was good, too - it's been a while since I enjoyed dancing there. Mostly enjoyed not doing a "not structured" dance thing. Although we improv now in ME class, I still make an effort to dance cleanly, and in the Middle Eastern style - not drawing in too much Indian or club dance. And in teaching Indian, I'm being super-careful not to pull in from other forms, as how else would my students learn? So... dancing was very freeing - I could be sloppy, I could play with some of the styling that other club dancers did, I could mix Indian and ME as I like... wheee! Nonetheless - couldn't get the ME out of my system - been too long since I was club dancing - have fallen behind on latest stylings, and have been too intense in formal dance training - I look like a gothy belly dancer. Hmm... how about that? :)
Got some nice compliments, and from people I know - which is somehow more meaningful. You're friends, I think, don't feel the need to affirm you for any other reason than them noticing you doing something cool. Strangers may have many various motives.
new_man kept up his usually charming front, but was definitely tired. Perhaps it is a complement to each other that we no longer feel the need to be "on" for each other. We can be tired and a little slumpy if we are tired and slumpy. But it kind of meant that when left alone, we lapsed into periods of barely-vertical, in between actually interesting conversation. That's fine. Driving home was tough - had spent my last two ergs of energy walking to car, and thus was pretty tired. new_man was good about keeping me awake though.
Yeah... it'd be neat if I mention that BEFORE I go - but well, wasn't 100% sure of going - as I couldn't go play if homework wasn't done.
new_man was the impetus - he was being the tour guide for a British friend, and her sister - both of whom are very cool. We also scooped up my roomate, who was having a really shitty night, and needed the feeling of a pack with her.A generally nice night - dance floor not packed (yay! space for me!), and although the DJ in the back was pretty mopey, he played quite a few songs I like. The front room was good, too - it's been a while since I enjoyed dancing there. Mostly enjoyed not doing a "not structured" dance thing. Although we improv now in ME class, I still make an effort to dance cleanly, and in the Middle Eastern style - not drawing in too much Indian or club dance. And in teaching Indian, I'm being super-careful not to pull in from other forms, as how else would my students learn? So... dancing was very freeing - I could be sloppy, I could play with some of the styling that other club dancers did, I could mix Indian and ME as I like... wheee! Nonetheless - couldn't get the ME out of my system - been too long since I was club dancing - have fallen behind on latest stylings, and have been too intense in formal dance training - I look like a gothy belly dancer. Hmm... how about that? :)
Got some nice compliments, and from people I know - which is somehow more meaningful. You're friends, I think, don't feel the need to affirm you for any other reason than them noticing you doing something cool. Strangers may have many various motives.
new_man kept up his usually charming front, but was definitely tired. Perhaps it is a complement to each other that we no longer feel the need to be "on" for each other. We can be tired and a little slumpy if we are tired and slumpy. But it kind of meant that when left alone, we lapsed into periods of barely-vertical, in between actually interesting conversation. That's fine. Driving home was tough - had spent my last two ergs of energy walking to car, and thus was pretty tired. new_man was good about keeping me awake though. 
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Date: 2005-07-15 01:29 am (UTC)Hm. I find that utterly fascinating, because I tend to feel exactly the opposite way but for the same reasons. Compliments from friends are nice, but sometimes it's hard for me to trust them because, well, they're my friends and they're biased in their opinions, or they want to make me feel good, or they know that I'm insecure and want to bolster me whether it's deserved or not.
Strangers don't know me. They have no bias, they have no separate reason to want to make me feel good, they have nothing invested in me or my mood or my opinion. So a compliment from them is more likely, to me, to seem sincere.
Of course, this is a viewpoint that I've been doing my best to overcome for a while, so it's interesting to see someone else describe the opinion from the other side....
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Date: 2005-07-15 02:02 pm (UTC)Plus, I suspect that they don't feel a need to bolster my possibly large dance-ego. :)
On the other hand, if I said - "do I look hideous?" - I would expect most of my friends to compliment me. Only a few of them would I actually believe as a 100% compliment, and not a "let's reassure Lakshmi, because we care about her" activity.